1- Don't
overexpect
Your
partner is not the magic wand or the genie that can make all your dreams come
true. He is not the know it all that can solve all your problems. Be
responsible and don't overexpect.
2- Don't
be too afraid
It's
OK to be afraid. But being too afraid is not OK at all. It's simply a nightmare
to yourself before it is a nightmare to your partner! Let love and trust get in
and give and take.
3- Don't
be fake
An
authentic and long-lasting relationship is all about authentic and real
feelings. Fake feelings and lies and deception can end a relationship in a
matter of seconds. So please don't do these fatal mistakes.
4-
Don't lose your personality
Don't
wait for anyone to define who you are or how good you are. You don't need but
yourself to decide to lead a happy life
and a healthy relationship.
5- Don't
hold grudges
Either
you let go or you stop it all. Holding grudges is detrimental to you and to
your partner. Find peace in yourself and in the other as life is too short for
living in a continuous internal and external war.
Don't
focus on your flaws or the other's flaws. We all have our flaws. We are human
beings after all. In order to have a happy life, see the good in yourself and
the good in others.
7- Don't
always seek to change the other
Caring
for another person is based on love, trust, and respect. This means that you
listen to your partner and let them acknowledge your full presence. Your
mission is not to change the other person. Your mission is to accept them as
they are.
8- Don't
say "yes" when a "no" is needed
Remember
the movie "Yes, man"? Remember all the things that Jim Carey said yes
to; well, don't do these things and only say yes when needed. There are
boundaries and values that should not be surpassed.
9- Don't
run after a replacement
If
you unfortunately get separated, do not rush and take the first person you meet
for a replacement. These hurried actions don't help you heal your wounds. They
make these wounds worse.
10- Don't
live in the past
There
are no failed relationships. We are human beings and we learn from our
mistakes. What is done is done, and life always goes on. It is these mistakes
that make us stronger and wiser and more careful in making the right choice in
the next time.
